She already wants to know who im texting when she sees me doing it. In reality its other officers from work, asking questions oor wanting to meet up to fish. But every time my phone dings she looks over at me.
Good, make her wonder, create some mystery. If she asks don't tell her, make her think it's a bunch of hot women!
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Shes also started doing some things different. After I discovered the A, she began closing the bedroom door consistently when dressing for work. Today she left it wide open, and to my surprise left her phone in the kitchen unattended. Means nothing inthe grand scheme of things , but it is out of pattern for her. She is acting more and more every day like it was 7 months ago and none of this happened. She asked me to touch her face to see if it was hot. Wouldnt have happened a week ago.
This is great and all but unless she want's to work on your MR who gives a $hit. Don't take the bait or get sucked in emotionally. If she is leaving the door open when she gets dressed I would purposely stay away to not give the impression your trying to get a peak! Act as if you don't give a $hit.
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About two weeks ago we had a short talk about the M. Long story short, i told her we needed to try ( This was before coming here, was still in reasoning and logic mode) to fix this for us and the kids. I told her i wanted the kids to see how adults handle problems in thier M correctly, not by running away or acting like we were, but by identifying issues and communicating with each other. I told her we needed to be role models and set a good example for them. Also told her i didnt need her in my life, anyone could fill the role and meet my needs. I wanted her in my life, wanted to spend my life with her.
OK...so now she knows or has had it re-enforced again. I would stop having these conversations. I have not spoke to my W about our MR or R in over 2 months. She left me, wants to party and hang with other guys. $crew that she doesn't deserve to know how much I love her etc. That makes us look pathetic.
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Since then she has had a lot of trouble sleeping at night, been physically ill, and has had problems with stress and neck muscle pain.
I am sorry for her pain but I am sure you have had many sleepless nights as well. I know I have!
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Today GAL begins. I am joining a Law Enforcement volleyball league, and im also very interested in abowling league i saw flyers for in town yesterday. Wednesday im getting the mountain bike out and going for a long ride. Ill continue that until snow fall. Not much, but its a start.
AWESOME! Keep it up!!
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As far as detachment, I am going to start making sure i dont get home in the mornings unitl shes left, and Im going to leave for work before she gets home. Days off will be spent doing the activities listed above, and what ever else i can find to get into. I unfollowed her on social media so im not constantly looking to see what she posts.
Good, when I stopped snooping it really helped me with my detachment. Altering your schedule and minimizing the amount of contact you have with her should help as well. You do not owe her an explanation but be prepared if she asks you a question about why are coming home later or leaving early.
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Before i get started, does this look ok? is there something i have planned that will not be Detachment/GAL? Just want to make sure i do this right. Thanks everyone for your time and support!
It looks really good. Have you thought about what the perfect GW would look like as a man? Any areas you would like to improve within yourself? What complaints did she have about you?
For example, I have some nice guy traits so for me I have to be more vocal about my opinions, beliefs, my wants and needs from my W or a future relationship.
