Hello exquisite .... thanks for your reply.. this has been going for 3.5 years now ... but till now he didnot initiate any talk about D.

We have not seen him since last September when I flew to him and took the girls... he has been depressed on painkillers and extremely tight with a high loan payments to bank.
He has been saying he want to visit and working on visa but it is more talk than action. He said he wants to talk about us but that was in march and nothing more. The only thing I know he has major back pain and should be going under survey which he is postponing. Taking high medication. Has large loan.

Anyway today I sent him a msg say... hello hope you are well. We need to talk about the kids emotional and financial support . I prefer to have it face to face so if you can come over or I travel over for one day. If it is difficult I can ask my brother to discuss it with him. Then I followed with a msg if he is still struggling health wise or financial I to let me know and suggest a better time.

I feel good about it and even if he thinks that we only need money that is fine... I don't care how he decide to explain it .. I don't think I am loosing anything now as anyway everything has been lost long time ago.

I know he read the msg... not expecting anything yet ... will give it a week to see.

M 45 H 45
D1 12 D2 9
BD 04/14
Living two different state
Not officially separated