Still an Awkward Situation

[Tate]

So, its been a year since I last posted. I thought things were improving...my wife and I were getting along great, I was spending more time with my family and growing closer than ever to my 3 kids. Then, came the slip up: a text message sent to me by accident.

I went to car races with my kids. My wife stayed home to catch up on school work...lesson plans as a teacher and homework since she started a PhD. The kids and I were watching the races when she sent a message to me addtessed to my BIL talking about her morning, then expressing how much she wanted to be with him on such a nice day someday.

She immediately tried calling me. I texted a reply saying we're done. She texted back that she was sorry for ruining my day with the kids, that this is just a reminder of how she really feels, that I should use discretion in talking to the kids and my family, and we could talk later. I responded that by having an affair with my BIL she is no friend to anyone in my family. Ee havent talked about it since it happened last weekend.

She crossed the line. I am planning on telling my sister and exposing the whole thing now. The fallout will be aweful...family get togethers will likely end, no more vacations for the kids and their cousins at the lake, devastation for my sister.

The question is, do I give her one more chance...she would have to stop all communication with my BIL and give me access to check her facebook account and phone records to make sure there is no contact. I know, this sounds controlling, but its the only way I could justify not telling my sister.

At this point I dont know that I care if my W divorces me. She talks about how the kids,wellness means everything to her, but she is still sending sweet nothings to my BIL.

Opinions?