WAW? Would Love Opinions. Thanks! Part 6

[Painful]

So you brought up a great point about the LBS that are successful ended up filing themselves. There are several posters here that got to a place of filing, dropping the rope, or making the clear statement that they were finally done, only to have their S do a 180. We have seen that with TxHub, Stormchaser, Lim, myself, and PsySara, etc. So yes, sometimes when we have a S that has BD'd us, there is a recipe that brings them back and that usually involves their other plans blowing up or backfiring, in combo with them realizing that the LBS has removed themself from plan B.
Blu

That's the key though, isn't it? (the statement in bold). It seems like it's not just the act of LBS's filing for D was what brought upon the WW to 180 and realize the error of their ways BUT THE TIMING of the filing. Had they filed earlier when their WWs were deep in "love with their soulmate APs" and didn't give a s--t about their LBSs, it's very likely those WWs would've been very happy to proceed with D without thinking twice about it. I think that's what my WW wants - for me to get tired of this BS and file - so that she's the "victim" in everyone's eyes instead of being a homewrecker. So the BIG question is how do you know when the timing is right and their plans with APs are blowing up in their face or backfiring (unless of course we're privy to the state of their R which I assume most of us are not)? Or do you just file on your own timeline and HOPE AND PRAY that the WWs would turn around?