my aunt and uncle divorced (she filed). They remarried 5 years later. The 2nd m lasted & was better. She's a widow in her 90's now.
My cousin also remarried his ex wife. It was 3-4 years after the divorce. I don't know who filed.
Interesting article written by a WH who married his OW.
He said while he ran off to marry OW (thereby proving that he was "right to leave"), he felt validated by his choice to leave, b/c his ex wife did not date for awhile.
He realized later that maybe she was busy raising their kids. Though He was "fine" with OW as his wife, he noticed they had their own issues.
He had the nagging thought that he could have stayed with his first wife and been happy if he had worked as hard in it as he was in the 2nd m. There were times he resented his 2nd wife b/c there was a distance between him and his kids even though his 2nd w made effort. IT was just the fall out.
And he realized his kids "loved" him but were not close to him like they were with their mom, and probably never would be. He felt they would have been closer if he had remained in the marriage & home.
But what really hit him hard was when his ex wife began dating. She was well treated by her boyfriend and he saw this. The author said when he saw his ex wife well treated by another man and falling in love with that man, was the first time it truly dawned on him that he may have given up on the best thing that he ever had.
When his ex wife married her 2nd h, and seemed very happy, that
he wrote the article with the title: "Don't Do What I Did"
He wrote that he broke up his family and deeply hurt them, b/c he was selfish and entitled. And stupid.
He lost what he could have had, and realized it too late.
Only when another man wanted what he had had, did he see its' real value.
It's childish but I think there is significant truth herein^^.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
