25yearsMLC 10 Years Later I FILE D part 6

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[quote=Maybell]Wouldn't have gone back to court. I would have gotten his wages garnished and told his parents everything.

Ugh. Here I go...sorry for the long rant to come!

I did get his wages garnished. He did not like that. So He quit! And he showed me!

And in the 2 months when the garnishments happened h did not send the pension check! So I never got both the 1/2 pension and support but H complained to the world how high HIS "alimony" was. It might have been if he'd ever paid it in full.

Anyhow, yes now or soon, the feds and military have court orders and
Since the pension check %s will soon come directly to me (not b/c he is "Giving" them to me but b/c I earned them)

he will either work openly on the tundra and I'll have the wages garnished- or he'll continue to do what he is now, going underground and hiding income. Working off the books until trial or settlement.

- I'm fairly certain he is putting his labor toward his buy in of the partnership there. In fact I'm about 90% sure of that. Nothing else makes sense unless he's decided money does not matter to him anymore, which would be nothing short of a miraculous personality transplant.

As for telling his dad/step mom, I have given that a lot of thought. But I don't think that will work. I think h has done some serious character assassination on me, over the years. I am only learning some of this recently. It adds to the sense of betrayal.

Plus, he is their blood (but my kids are FIL's only grandkids, so you would think that mattered more...ouch) I want to ask my kids if FIL/wife have reached out to them, but I am afraid the answer is no, and that I will hurt them more by asking.

H loves loves loves impression management and he Craves his dad's approval while also resenting his dad for mistreating his late mother in their divorce, in which h's mom got nothing after 18 years of m.
(Why yes, irony abounds.)

SIDENOTE my late MIL told her L that she "just wanted out!". She seemed proud of that later, but then would complain that she got nothing.

A good L would have argued with his client more but I cannot say how adamant MIL was but it was a catastrophic error on her part, however.

She worked 2 jobs until she retired and smoked a ton under all that stress. Also always had money problems. Retired and got lung cancer and died.
Though everyone in our family knows how deeply h resents his dad for the divorce, h has never told his father this.

Too "Conflict avoidant"

(when can we say "dishonest/cowardly" instead of this ^^ euphemism?)

Also I expect that h wants the inheritance.

I'm no longer sure where I stand with my FIL, which hurts. And his wife - I thought - loved me.

So if h did not have the money for d20's tuition, why didn't he just ask his dad? Pride or

b/c he really wanted to punish d20/me/us. Of all the kids, d20 has spoken up the most with effective reality checks on h.

Which means they may not even know. How could he tell them he cut her off? But yeah, I assume character assassination, no disclosure of cutting d20 off, and either pretending we are "working it all out and everyone's happier this way"

or that I "turned the kids against" him.

OMG I FORGOT SOMETHING!!

On h's recent income/expenses list, where he says he's so poor, too old, etc blah blah blah

he also listed d20's tuition as an expense of HIS. And somehow his expense are $16k a month.

That ^^^ is stunningly ballsy behavior. Or delusional, or just big time deceitful.

I mean, wow. My L warned me not to burst into flames reading them.