Joe are you active duty? If so, see a JAG Lawyer b/c it's free and knowledge is power.
No, I would not tell your w. It's not a trump card to throw in her face, it's for Your peace of mind.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016