[quote=joejoe1]You are the Number 2 in her life. So you want to be number 2? You are going to have to detach. It's going to be hard. You have to get your balls back. You have allowed to much and she is not going your balls back to you without a fight.
She has to have some type of lost coming from your direction. IMO you need to kick her out the Martial bedroom and stop kissing and hugging her.
joe, did you know you say this^^ to almost every man on this site? And then you tell them their wives have "0 respect" for them. Regardless of what you think , it's really inflammatory.
A native, have your called a DB coach? And as Cadet said, You stay in the MBR. your w can do what she wants. It's your bed.
Whether to continue hugging/connecting physically (or letting it lead to something more) is an intensely personal choice.
My DB coach said the concerns are 2 fold. SOME WAS's (or their affair partners) really do risky behavior and you have to wonder about sexually transmitted diseases,
Second, how you feel afterwards. Do you feel closer, or sort of used?
Finally, what did you mean when you said you "ignored her" and "did not pay attention to her"? Was it you being complacent or neglectful or cold?
What would you wife say if she were here? And is the unrealistic parts of this (she and OM cannot live in the same country??) - does that make it "safer" for her, do you think?
Or is that going to change? OR is she going to just live under the same roof as you, as friends, and staying till your d14 leaves? I mean, without asking her, what do you think her "Plan" is??
Native, do not set any boundary if you will not enforce it.
Having an Unenforced boundary is worse than not having one. I'
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