I think you are in a great position. You don't have nothing to lose. No matter what direction she's goes at this point it's not with you. She has 0 respect for you. You will never get your wife back if she dont respect you. And I mean this, if letting her go means getting your respect that's what you are going to have to do.
Letting her go dont mean you will lose her, but you no longer have any influence over your wife.
You have to get that respect back. And when I say let her go, I dont mean accept her going to spend time with another man. That's a 100% unacceptable and you have to let her know that. You cant control her, but You can show your disapproval and thats the start of detaching. Next you come up with boundaries for yourself that she dare not cross. When you create those boundaries they must come with consquences.
Stand firm, strong strong, have patience and take action.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.