Hi Irish, firstly im team irish all day long as is every other person ive ever seen posting on your thread.
I will go slightly further and saw i watch with awe in the way you cope bring up 2 girls who once knew a happy home. Im not saying for one second single parents home aren't happy , your girls had tremendous trauma when their mum left, i was in that postion but thankfully it was my dad and not my sainted mum.
Having made my position very clear ( i hope ) your message to EXW was attacking her and while part of me applauds you, part of me thinks you are still attached. In my sitch i answer every message very briefly and move on with my day. Am i tempted to let her have both barrells from time to time , of course but heres a secret between me and you. How much more does it hurt her that i wont engage, my belief is lots. So passive aggressive maybe but i still dont give it a thought once message is gone.
Your EXW is the victim ( in her mind ) and nothing will shift her mindset until she ( if ever ) accepts otherwise.
So , please accept this post in the manner its intended, EXW doesnt deserve to be in your Ds lives right now. Certainly not in the mindset she is in.
Irish is one of the strongest members ( imho ) on this board ( i would have to include Sotto ), you never moan or feel sorry for yourself even though it must happen that you feel tbat way sometimes. Dont get caught up in her mindset, 25 has his theorys about her thoughts and feelings and i would agree. Unless shes a psycho these thoughts must cross her mind occasionally.
You lead by way of your posts, you show alot of humility and caring so it understandable that sometimes you react.
Again Irish , just my humble opinion but from your view point its hard to see the wood from the trees.
