Wouldn't have gone back to court. I would have gotten his wages garnished and told his parents everything. Mr. Image Management would have hated that. (As it happens, I got a lawyer who was such a bully he scared me and we got the whole thing settled without having to deal with the court. That was intentional. I didn't want to spend limited resources that way.)
I have a friend whose husband is in jail and left her with seven children and she has no means of supporting them. His family have utterly abandoned her and her children. Her parents would help if they could but there's little they can do for her and they live 1000 miles away.
And yet she's just fine. Maybe not 100% awesome, but managing, and manages to still smile. A lot. She celebrates her children every day. She has her struggles, and they aren't small. But she's just fine.
If she can manage, you can too.
I didn't hire the career coach for my first job. I am hiring her for my third job. The first two I just figured out as best I could. It's only now that I'm feeling sturdier that it made sense to make that investment in myself.
My first job was as an admin assistant. Because of that sword hanging over my head I didn't think I was capable of handling anything else. (For a while, also, I wasn't.)
JUST. ANYTHING. Will do. Temp or anything.
One of my coping mechanisms during this time was to write notes to God in the moments when I just couldn't carry that load any more, asking for exactly what I felt I needed to carry on till the next day.
Go back to that facebook post I mentioned. A few other people found me... you can too...
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
