I lost on Sitch at this moment. Why are you using a VAR? You know what she is doing. Using a VAR is not detaching. You havent posted a GAL yet You need to get out the house and away from your WW. You haven't mentioned a 180.
What is your goal. All I'm seeing is threat for threat. Either you are or are not. And thats with all things. You asked about boundaries, and I havent heard about any being set by you. Why is your S and D in the middle Of this? Please get them out of this. Tell your wife to keep them out of this. You and your wife are playing the kids against each other and thats not good at all. Exactly it's horrible. This memories they will never forget. Is that what You want?
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.