Totally makes sense. Although he p*ssed me off Friday. He was heading to the cottage with our youngest Friday. So I told him next weekend was his weekend and our D had dance for the majority of Saturday and then a birthday party on Sunday. I just wanted to give him the heads up that he needed to adjust his plans. Well he got angry and told me that he wasn't going to come back multiple times for her stuff and her stuff could just be cancelled and that he wasn't giving up his weekend. I got so angry. The only thing I said was but this is your daughters life as well and it's your weekend. Then he started to tell me I wasn't going to tell him what to do. So I said I'm too angry right now to talk about this. We can discuss this when we are both calm. So that right there is a huge success for me. Normally I would have been angry and blaming and not letting it go. But I just backed off. And I haven't talked about the situation yet. I'm not sure how to proceed. I obviously can't force him to take the kids. I get he works long hard hours and needs the down time. But on the other hand kids aren't there for convience. And my time is worth something as well. I don't need to be driving her all over the place either. But I do it because I am a parent. So I either stifle the anger and work thru it with my IC for the betterment of my family. Or I put up boundaries and say no. This needs to be done half. I am tired of always being the one parent that is always there for the kids. I love my kids. But he can't just take the kids only when it's convenient for him. Yes I am bitter about this part. Because I always thought he was better then this. And again I know I can't control his actions. But did he really think he could just leave and not have any responsibility? That part drives me crazy. And before this set back we were getting along really well. And then he blows up over having to 'ruin' his weekend.
