i will most likely get a VAR and put it under her bed to capture facetime messaging to see the extent of what is going on. Sounds paranoid but who knows what is being discussed with regards to me. W sure won't tell, not the truth anyway.
Are you in fear of your w? Or the OM? And where is he now?
Oh and what happened to working on yourself? What is your goal here?
You seem to think the only two options are snooping & punishing her & the OM as much as possible,
or laying down to be walked on.
If you want a divorce, which she says SHE wants, then do it OR try DBing
but you are all over the place.
I know there are people here on this site who are not DBing in their own situations, or who gave up, or who want to vicariously punish their spouses thru urging you on to snoop, spy and avenge.
But I could have sworn you came here to try and save the m.
None of this is part of DBing.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
