Well. XW is holding strong to her plan. Lets just say its been a weird past 24hours
So I'm working from home yesterday and I get my confirmation from an AirBnb I rented (had to change a mid Oct trip to a next weekend trip). I prepare the government form that I have to fill out to send to XW to inform her that I am taking the girls out of the country. I send it off. receive a simple reply Thanks
message comes back.You know you don't have to advise me anymore. I don't want to hear from you. I will wait until the girls turn 30 so they will reach out to me.
*I have to message you by law to advise you that I am out of the country with them . you have 2 options.
1- block my emails or send them to spam. I don't care. I just need proof i sent them, no proof needed that you read them. You can't prevent me from going or them. It is only to advise you.
2- Simply reply thanks.
I don't accept your plan of waiting until they are 30 and maybe by then they will reach out. The girls deserve more from you. They won't accept anything less. Have a good day
Get your head out of your a$$ and start being the mom you once were. Not for me but for them.
Irish, If the law requires you to inform her, that's all that was needed. The rest of this^^^ is you saying hurtful things to a woman who is keenly aware that her r's with her kids is bad.
Your comments only serve to hinder any attempts she may wish to make to re-establish contact with them now or in the future.
Surely if guilting her was an effective strategy it would have worked by now. Dig deep and ask yourself what your goal in those comments really was.
She rents a lot of space in your head and you lashed out at her - maybe b/c she said she did not want to hear from you. But I'm not surprised she does not want to hear from you, given this^^^ interchange.
I think she is compelled to open your emails, b/c something notable or bad may have happened to the girls. And I think you know this.
So your jabs just look vindictive on your end and they are beneath you, don't you think?
There is a DB principle that says "Keep the Road Home, Paved & Smooth."
While there may be no hope for a recon between you and your x wife, I don't think you need to put any more boulders on her road back to the kids.
My h has not seen our kids in a year, ignored their birthdays & cut off the college tuition in our d20's 3rd year of college. (He still claims it as a huge expense of his, which takes some nerve).
But I swear If my h told me that he was going to "wait till they turn 30" and then they'd be in contact, I would thank God.
My biggest fear is that he no longer cares and plans no future contact, whereas your w clearly does care, and however feeble her "plan" is, it exist.
Of course I know how badly your kids' mom has failed them. Their mom knows it too, and even if she did not, no comments like your above would wake her up.
I think we both know you are better than that.
How do you think you can structure future exchanges to either assist in their reconciliation - or at least not make it harder?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
