24 Mths in..I gotta whole lot of living to do now

[Irish M]

Happy saturday everyone.

Well. XW is holding strong to her plan. Lets just say its been a weird past 24hours

It all started with a message from someone i confided in over 12 years ago. When XW first did this pre MLC act.
Hi Irish. It's been a long time. Are you divorced?
What happened?
Now this person is not a friend on facebook and it made me go and reconfigure my privacy features on Fb. With all the updates and changes over the years certain things are visible. This was a person i met out of town at a good moment when i needed someone to reassure me I was not nuts. She was single, i was Db'd

Yes i'm divorced. Things happen. All is good now though.

And the girls. they ok. is it like what happened 12 years ago?

Yes very similar but on a bigger scale. I have the girls full time.

OMG. she doesn't try to see them at all? Anyway the girls look just like you , they will be fine. If they are anything like you that strength will carry them through

Then I started questioning her motives in my head. Why after all these years reach out. I looked at her profile. She is married now (i'm glad). Her husband has the same last name as OM. Bingo. the world is a small place. I might be over thinking it, weird just the same.

So Iblocked blocked and blocked. I don't need that drama in my life.


So I'm working from home yesterday and I get my confirmation from an AirBnb I rented (had to change a mid Oct trip to a next weekend trip). I prepare the government form that I have to fill out to send to XW to inform her that I am taking the girls out of the country.
I send it off. receive a simple reply Thanks

Moments go by and another message comes in.
My dad ashes will be buried next weekend (name of he cemetery)

I reply a simple thank you.

message comes back.You know you don't have to advise me anymore. I don't want to hear from you. I will wait until the girls turn 30 so they will reach out to me.


I have to message you by law to advise you that I am out of the country with them . you have 2 options.

1- block my emails or send them to spam. I don't care. I just need proof i sent them, no proof needed that you read them. You can't prevent me from going or them. It is only to advise you.

2- Simply reply thanks.

I don't accept your plan of waiting until they are 30 and maybe by then they will reach out. The girls deserve more from you. They won't accept anything less. Have a good day

Get your head out of your a$$ and start being the mom you once were. Not for me but for them.


It was at that point I shut down my laptop. I will not look at any replies from her until Tuesday night. I have a lot happening this weekend and I really can't be bothered.

Yesterday I got my camera out. Chinese garden had huge dragon made out of lantern material. Some in the water. Got thee late so I was limited on the photos. So many people there. Darn tourist.

hope you all have a great weekend.

Irish