Mine I don't believe ever said the word. She would say some other phrase to dance around it. Like she couldn't make herself say divorce. This last time before I made it final I felt she was using making the divorce final as a power play. Well insaid I will handle it. Sent word to lawyer tonmake it happen.
Isn't that odd OTW? Guess it is the mind set of the WW? I don't know. I find it to be extremely selfish... like the worst kind of selfishness. I never thought of WW as selfish until all of this. Then I go back in time, reflect and see that she was always kind of that way.
Originally Posted By: joejoe1
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The D word once in 28 months, wow. I would be lost as well. I was finding hope in my wife not saying that as well. She has only said it once. Today she said t" if we stay together. That's the first time I heard that. You usually says shes done. Did you WW ever say "if we stay together?".
That's is a hard place your were in. And you are doing well now. I hope i have your strength by the end results of my Sitch.
Hey Joe... just to be clear... I am definitely not lost. First few months to a year, of course, but certainly not now. Now I do what I want without a thought about WW.
"If" is not in my WW's vocabulary. It is either one way or the other. Even when we were getting close to getting back together... for her it was 'when', for me it was 'if'. Then of course that all switched to we are not going to work out again... which was OK with me... because I agree!
You'll get there... GAL, make some good goals and focus on being introspective. Learn about yourself. I'd recommend looking up Pigpen's threads for some real inspiration. He is the man, he crushed it! Figure out what you really really want out of life. In a weird way, this has been a bit of blessing. I'll just get a bit of a later start than most people with family's and what not. But I think this whole experience will help me in my next relationship immensely. We shall see!
