How do I get things right?

[Lovelyp]

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Let me ask you about resentment. Were you holding old unresolved issues in your heart? I mean, it's hard to deal with resentment when nothing seems to change. What about lack of respect for him as a man......and as your H? Do you really desire your him, or is it more an issue of your need for emotional and physical intimacy?

Thanks Sandi2. I appreciate how you take time to read and give advice.

That's so true because when tried to deal with resentment he would hurt me again and it got difficult to deal with it.
I think I was bitter mostly because he would ignore my emotional needs.

Yes I was disrespectin him but didn't mean to. Its failure to deal with the pain and resentment. Now I try to detach and it helps resolve it but there are days it's difficult and I fail to control my emotions and temper. Its getting better.

I do desire him a lot, more than when we first got married. He feels the same too and he enjoys being with me. In fact he looks forward to being with me and on good days I do too. The only problem is he doesnt understand that sometimes I need to be close to him without it leading to sex. He needs to start connecting with me more emotionally but we love each other.

How do I treat him when he us angry but wants to talk to me?