LovelyP I fully echo Sandi's comments. You made a mistake, you "confessed" it and your h is holding it over your head or throwing it in your face or punishing you for it by paying attention to other women...that's abuse, regardless of the cause.
SIGH...more advice coming...
Meanwhile --, 2 "writing" requests.
Could you break your post into paragraphs and separate them to make it more readable?
It would make it much easier.
And could you add to your signature block (profile) a few sentences for a summary?
(that is the way we remember the individual posters more easily).
Like how long you were married, ages, children's ages, when the bomb drop or recent issues. So we can remind ourselves of each poster.
It will help us advise you better.
Do you have a counselor for just you? And are you in the UK?
And do keep posting! We will watch for you
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