To be honest, I have no idea where I am in this process, and it probably really doesn't matter. I do not feel that we are piecing because I don't think that H crawling back into his hole and not speaking to me for 8 days, is part of THAT process.
I agree that we should be getting to know each other again.....and we really were doing well with that. But, as we all know life sometimes has other plans. For us not to have any disagreements is unrealistic. So if H can not handle those sort of things, I guess it is better for me to know that now. I know I can be hard to deal with, and of course I want things to go my way ......but I also want us to be honest with how we are feeling, and I want to be able to tell H and him not run back inside his shell like a turtle.
Coly, I waited for so long for us to have any kind of communication, and to be honest I never thought that we would ever speak again, let alone have H tell me that he wanted to work on things. It is hard not to have expectations when he says things like that
But I am not okay with him running back into that f'ing hole and making the choice to not speak to me......so childish!!! He can continue to sit in his house, or do whatever he is doing, because I know one thing, I deserve to be treated so much better then that. I deserve respect and by him acting this way I find it very DISrespectful.
I so want you to get to a place where you and your H will start to have conversations. Ours started out few and far between. Only when I decided to sell the house is when things changed between the two of use. Honestly once H and I did start speaking again it was difficult for me. Honestly he was getting on my nerves because I had gotten so used to him NOT being around and then all of a sudden there he was. Took some getting used to that's for sure
It is so hard to have patience......trust me I get that. Please be patient with him, and mostly yourself. I finally am learning that focusing on ourselves makes us remember how great we are......and like everyone says only a fool would not want to be around us.
In regards to "The Brits"...... I'll take your word when you say you are trying As an American, and a Southern person, I definitely find it hard at times to have conversations with H. My MIL was one of the hardest people to communicate with (when he did) which was rare.
......but I also want us to be honest with how we are feeling, and I want to be able to tell H and him not run back inside his shell like a turtle. 
As an American, and a Southern person, I definitely find it hard at times to have conversations with H. My MIL was one of the hardest people to communicate with (when he did) which was rare. 
