Any Advice?

[gw5263]

Joe, nothing has been left out. Back in earlier posts i explained why i moved out. Recap-Yes, she was having the A before any movement occured. It began in February, was discovered at theend of june, and i moved in July. She rented an apartment that was extremely small and planned on moving into it with the children. I have an autistic son who does not handle change well and roams constantly thru the house, he needs a lot of space. The kids were going thru enough at that point and i did not want any further disruptions in thier lives. I told W that i would go to the apartment so that the kids would not be uprooted. To answer an unasked question, in my state unless there is DV or abuse on the part of the mother, she is the primary caregiver for the children when separated ann until the divorce proceedings are complete with a custody order.

We are in separate bedrooms, so what is the need top move her clothes? And as far as turning the OM in, some of the other older member posters saw no good reason in doing it, and my main motivation, truthfullly, in addition to making him go away, was revenge. No good comes of revenge. All it would have done is complicate the sitch even more. I have had more than enough of her [censored], and disrespect, but i am not sure at this point what my options are other than to detach and GAL. She refuses to end the afair and will not go to georgia to be with OM without the kids, which is out of the question. I cannot put her out of the house because her name is on the deed, so i'm stuck. As much as i would love to,I cant take her phone, she pays the plan. I cant force her to stay in the house and not go outside to call him, cant stop her from texting himm at work, cant stop her from thinking about him. All i can do is as Sandi and 25MLC suggested and detach,GAL, and hope she responds to that. I dont talk about the A anymore or try to change her mind by telling her how much i love her, its a moot pint to her, she doesnt want to hear that. So i have no idea what boundaries i can set, or how to get any respect back other than to dso as ive been advised here. Im new to all this and have no idea what im doing. I am relying on all the experience and advice i get here. I really have to watch my step, because i am a 21 year veteran of law enforcement and cant afford any false Dv claims against me. So i have no idea what options i have. That's why im here, as so many others are.