Enduring in the marriage with unmet needs makes one vulnerable because that's what led to the A in the first place. I never wanted to have it that way, in fact I am one person who used to think I will never do that. It really happened without me planning to and I deeply regret that.
Sister, you are preaching to the choir!
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I am very strong Christian. I used to counsel many people (both H and Ws) and help them to pray and work on themselves and communicate and my guidance helped them a lot in their marriages.
Same here!
Although my H wasn't like you've described your H, I am familiar with the feelings you are experiencing. I don't doubt you are depressed, lost, and worn out. It makes it hard to have the energy to work at anything, much less a MR.
Let me ask you about resentment. Were you holding old unresolved issues in your heart? I mean, it's hard to deal with resentment when nothing seems to change. What about lack of respect for him as a man......and as your H? Do you really desire your him, or is it more an issue of your need for emotional and physical intimacy?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
