I can understand the benefits of not pointing the finger at my W for breaking up our family, however, I can't but feel that she's getting off too easy.
Is she? In her eyes, she's been suffering silently for years and YOU were the one that was getting off too easily. She tried and tried to get your attention and you ignored her (I'm not saying you did, I'm saying this is her perception) and now that she finally got tired of your years of lack of attention and felt forced to act, you want to blame her for everything. This is one of the reasons WAW's resent their LBH's so much. The LBH thinks it's all her fault.
Look, there are good reasons so many states have gone to no-fault divorce. There are two sides to EVERY divorce story, and it's a hopeless cause trying to decide who is "right". I am in 100% agreement with Acc, blaming separation and divorce on one's spouse is not only harmful to all involved, but it prevents one from owning their own part in the demise of the M. No one ends up here on the DB forums because they were a perfect spouse!
