How do I get things right?

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Thanks Sandi2 for your responses and questions. I really value your insights. The last question is tricky. If I'm responsible for my own happiness then in case of unmet needs how do I get over that. Enduring in the marriage with unmet needs makes one vulnerable because that's what led to the A in the first place. I never wanted to have it that way, in fact I am one person who used to think I will never do that. It really happened without me planning to and I deeply regret that.

BTW was reading your posts on your experiences. I am learning a lot from that too. Thanks. I am very strong Christian. I used to counsel many people (both H and Ws) and help them to pray and work on themselves and communicate and my guidance helped them a lot in their marriages. Funny enough most of them would end up with great marriages & most people say marriage is my ministry yet I can't fix my own and I cheat. I was at my lowest and in terms of faith I was so lost when it happened. I was not even attending church and didn't even have energy to pray. I guess after years of praying, working on marriage and reading many books I was so de motivated and lost it. Now I really try to avoid counseling others but then they still look for me and have to help them out. I got to a point where I wanted to stop.