This is coming from someone that has been doing kid exchanges for 5 years- personally my stance on visitation is you have got to be flexible. You are BOTH going to have times where something comes up and you need to shift things around a little, or a lot. My XW and I have traded around pickup times, days and even entire weeks due to work schedules, vacation plans, etc.
If you take a hard line on handoffs then it will probably end up biting you in the butt later.
OH H3LL YES! I completely agree. I think remaining flexible with the visitation schedule is very good for the children. If nothing else, it allows the children to have some control over their lives. And, I think it's important for the children to know that the parents will entertain reasonable requests and not just brush them aside and treat them like objects.
