Your W sounds like mine in that perspective. She acted like she couldn't do certain things around me. When in truth my W has no follow through. W is very intelligent, but just stops or never really gets started. She was bragging to her sister a few months back on how 2017 was her best year ever. But other than the A and cheating. She has accomplished nothing. She has actually gained a lot more weight.
OM is clearly her living a fantasy in her own words. But the reality is that she about to find out that with me out if the picture she still isn't accomplishing anything. While I have done so much this year without her. Eventually she'll realize that spreading her legs was her only goal. Hell she couldn't even get her own place. W got a 2 bedroom with her sister. So she has not even accomplished the goal of truly being on her own.