How do I get things right?

[Lovelyp]

He threatens divorce and when I agree to it he goes quiet. I understand for now he us angry abt the A. He told me he lost interest in me in early 2015 (months before I had the A). In one conversation when I told him I want a divorce he said he will only agree if he buy me an apartment so that we live at a decent place. We already have a house but I told him if we divorce I want to move to a new place and don't want to live at our house.He also says we can divorce maybe after a year or so because he wants to help me get back on my feet. I told him it's unheard of that you care so much and wants to voluntarily spend on someone you want to divorce.I told him if we divote I like to be responsible for my upkeep and have my freedom so he needs to make up his mind on what he wants.

Sometimes he suggests an open marriage so that we stay together and I get someone to date. He says he got hurt to know an A happened behind his back and it would be better if he keeps that option open so it can happen openly. I refused this too because all I want is a normal marriage where he can make an effort to meet my needs.

I think it is so confusing. I don't understand him. He likes to talk to me, he even likes to come and have lunch with me. When we fight now he initiates sex a lot. On that area even when he is not angry he initiates more. He likes to talk to me more than before. I don't even know how to move forward. I had an A so do I have the right to complain abt my unmet needs now or endure and be so unhappy