How do I get things right?

[Lovelyp]

The problem is we both built up lots of resentment over the years. My main problems with him are
1. He never compliments me because he says I have so much pride. At one point he told me it was better if I looked so unattractive then no man would look at me. HE is atractive and i usee to gI've him compliments abt how he drives me crazy every time I look at him etc, compliment abt his hard work even when we are with friends, I appreciate every little effort.
2.He doesn't lead in most areas except finances. For the past 7 years of our marriage I am mostly the one initiating any intimacy. If I don't we don't make love
3.he isn't affectionate. He refuses anything I like. If I hold his hand he feels uncomfortable. He doesn't like to do what u ask in terms of romance. He just complains that I like attention. In our10 year marriage I can count on my fingers the number of times he kissed me. I complained and he says he doesn't like kisses.
4. He has so much resentment and sometimes he explodes and says so many things gs he regrets
5.he gets close to women a lot. They start taking most of his time. I complain abt it because I feel those relationships meets his emotional needs and he has no incentive of connecting with me. They are EAs but I know they are not physical. He is someone who doesn't like health risks so much.
6.he doesn't listen or try to meet my needs. He is not my brother or father who is there to provide financially. I can provide that for myself but I feel so lonely with him. He doesn't understand I need closeness to him and not just sex. I tried to hint, say it out and even mentioned I'm so unhappy because he doesn't meet my needs.
7. He compares himself with other men and feels he is one of the best. He doesn't drink, smoke, he is financially responsible for his family, takes care of the kid, always at home with us etc. He is goodlooking with a tonned body (but sadly i just look and not get him to be close. Most times I have to fantasise abt things we could do and then in reality can't do because he doesn't feel it's important) . Begging or initiating makes me loose desire for him. When I complain he starts saying most women don't have a H who does what he does. He has no incentives to improve on anything.