Like Coly him not wanting to be done stood out for me. It'sgreat you didn't pursue that with him. Are you in a place where you could be receptive to another R with H? Just curious. Whether you are or not, let him expand on that on his own without you bringing it up.

I am not sure I could trust someone who has already left his family, though you are right that it could be interesting to have his perspective of things.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together