My happiness (I'm kind of too happy about vacay to be mean to)and being a little bit conversational (as opposed to saying nothing) has had the effect of her talking more also. She did talk to me about a few things that weren't "business" related, and really personal. So this actually meets a goal, and I think I came close to the goal not to kid her. I failed the goal, but I don't think I made her angry with the kidding....
The other edge to the conversational sword is it gives more opportunity for her just under the surface anger towards me to come out, and it has a few times. No big blow ups, but I did respond to her statement made out of frustration about me sleeping in the basement with "That's not happening." These little disagreements are very much in the pattern of the old R, but now I'm putting up with very little BS. I do need to stay zen, and I need to seem more interested when her stories get dumb
The only negative? of being so excited, is sometimes I want to give her a hug. I feel like it is out of habit possibly?
She was supposed to work on her resume Monday, but that didn't happen. Seemingly the fault of the other party, but with W there is always an excuse.
On tugging on my heartstrings front. The boys have been so cute lately in "family" ways. Ways that won't be the same when we split. Family is a big deal to them. They have friends, but no best buds.
Both my boys jumped on my lap, "Daddy!" I told them that they were the two things that made me happy, then my eldest brings up "What about mommy?" At least they don't know what is happening yet!
M: 41 W: 41 Married 2003 2 boys 9 & 6 Bomb Dropped May 2017
At least they don't know what is happening yet!