Still here. Still not detached... (Part 2)

[25yearsmlc]

Chris, that is awesome that you guys could come to an agreement on so much.

You've read the stories here. The crying is almost meaningless. BUT the discussion hit you like a brick wall, and probably did something similar to her. It moved your process further along whatever the outcome will be.

Amen Kylo. Even being unable to find something in my storage unit triggered tears in my d20 and then in me.

Chris, my h spoke to my brother last night about settling this. It has been a year and there are vastly different thoughts.

H "forgot" that he blocked my access to joint marital funds when we separated. What a surprise that was then, and I certainly found his present amnesia startling. There are other facts that he either ignores or forgot to tell his L or I don't know what. Like, "h, where are the funds you took?"

When my financial fears are allayed as best they can be, I think I will zoom ahead in my process.

The mourning is complicated when there are so many fears of financial doom. You are to be congratulated on avoiding this.

And yes, take in Blu's words. You do seem to be sort of unapproachable and no, not b/c your w doesn't know you oppose the divorce.

But the attitude that comes from the way you are presenting here, at least, seems a bit confrontational.

The way I read it, I feel like she'd have to crawl back.
Are you giving her reasons to return & restore the m, other than guilt?

Just asking.