You would be a fool to destroy the evidence. Sorry to belabor the point but I think it's illegal for him to have it, or to keep it, or to threaten to use it. It's blackmail with classified material; it's not a photo of adultery in a state that has it as grounds for divorce.
PLEASE Seek legal counsel that is familiar with this (not all L's are) and be totally upfront and honest about your behavior and motivations.
At least keep it around for leverage. FTR, and with all due respect to Tread (whom I usually agree with)
I totally disagree with this^^ approach in this situation. And There is nothing in DBing that suggests it, either.
Especially knowing that she is willing to lie on you. If she tries to destroy you, then she runs the risk in you ruining the career of OM.
How is she trying to "destroy" him? She wants a divorce, not an execution. Yes she lied, but that is not a rare thing here.
I get it, he's very hurt. (No offense, but Join the club). We all are very hurt, and we have all been betrayed in some form.
But we do control OUR behavior. We don't have to spiral.
When we pursue revenge, which this absolutely is, we are not coming from a place of strength. And it's not attractive and I have never seen this type of action help the situation. Never.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
