Any Advice?

[gw5263]

Sandi,
My son is 13 years old. Socially, he is about 7-8 years old, intellectualy about20+ at times... He is in school and is extrememly high functioning. Something that actually pisses me off is she had him come in her office yesterday ansd showed him gifts she bought OM and asked him not to tell me about them, which he did. She also had him delete her browser history on her work computer to hide her activities related to OM at work.
W works for the school system at the moment, unless they catch on that she has been using theschool to conduct her affair as well ( Having OM deliver gifts to her there, using the computer there to order him gifts)She has told her Principal a modified version of our sitch, however she now feels like the principal is , as she put it, "Harassing her " for no reason.

I have not turned him in yet, I am struggling hard with that decision. I had these ideas of different outcomes if i did. Based on your experiences, what effect would this have on my W in the current climate?
on one hand i see it as a tool, one that will move him out of the picture, and potentially force him to decide between a 30 year career and my W he has known for 6 months. To be honest with you, i also saw it as a tool of revenge for everything i have been throught during this ordeal. Payback if you will. He has been an active, willing participant in the destruction of my family, fully aware of the risks, and should face his own set of consequences.
My W sees any move i make against him is , as she put it, jeopardizing a future with him. She told me he is innocent in all this as she is the one who destroyed the family. he did nothing wrong and doesnt deserve it. he worked hard for his career. I worked hard for our family for 17 years. I am starting to have some clarity in that i seem to focus more on him than my situation at present. I do see benefit in reporting him, I see him as the root holding this all together , however i also feel my attention is misplaced on him. So Should I turn him in, or let it go and work on the sitch here on the home front and let life take care of him? I had this crazy thought when i first mentioned it that he would tuck tail and run, however this did not happen as i thought it might.

As far as getting away, I work an odd shift rotation, and actually have made plans with some co workers to do some things this weekend. I was even planning on going to the lake on my own if i had too, and just sit wan watch a movie to get out of the house and give her the impression i was out on the town having some fun for a change.