25YRSMLC........I don't think your reply was to me, Heck no, just a general comment about the military approach to adultery. To be clear, it's not as if it's admired. I think (or hope?) that when it comes to broken vows, the "good old boys" attitude is not as prevalent as some might think.
I did see some guys get dragged through the mud by their WAS's - only to have the spouses retract as soon as they realized the consequences would be felt by all, not just the soldier.
Also, solid marriages were often overtly supported and actually commented upon in officer evaluations for promotion. I have not seen that in the civilian world.
Elected officials definitely get away with more than the rest of us, but even so, a lot of behaviors that used to end careers or ruin the reputations of most people, are just shrugged off more today.
There have been very few situations that I would suggest exposure, and this is not one of them.
I tend to post more to LBH newcomers, so I am not sure if exposure is more of the male thinking, or not. The men see OM as being the problem. Remove the problem and he gets his W back, right? But it does not remove the problem. The problem started before OM entered the picture.
Understood. ^^ To be fair, I think I can speak for you when I say "affairs inflict deep damage to marriages, regardless of what preceded them."
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