Son is seeing a councillor seems to be doing him some good. The w has been in contact regularly by phone with the kids. After i lost my temper with her she has tried to have contact with me everyday i went 4 days with no contact she would send good night and have a good day messages through the kids.
She called today and had my son pass me the phone this is the jist of the conversation.
Her: Im trying to work on things but i need time. Me: i understand its good to have a handle on things. Her: i need your support. Me: you do get my supportt. Her Do i Me: please share with me what you concider support. Her: You could check on me or ask me how my day is going. Me: Thank you for sharing your concerns. If we can talk and be respectful of each other i would be more then willing to check on you from time to time. Her: Im trying i do want to come home. Me i appreciate your efforts but nothing should be rushed and at no time should we forget the feelings of the kids in all this.
Her: i know im a terrible mother... Me: At no time have i said that or implied it we and i mean we have to be careful not to forget young adults are involved..
Her: im trying... Me: Dont give up on yourself or the family.
Her: Thank you Me: Have a good day..
She continued to talk with my son finished convo with him saying that she is trying and that she loves him.
She is on a roll today multiple text about her day has asked if it is alright to come over and spend evening with us. My son let her know we are going to be home tonight watching a movie. She is now texting asking if she can bring something or if i would like her to make something.
I almost feel like i should make plans and not be home tonight. Im confused ...
I limit my contact with her for 4 days and she makes out that im not supportive. She left she was the one empty inside and for the most part she thought it was my fault!!
