My Story...

[Don23]

Did I say to much??

So, stayed out of the house a little extra last night and got home after my wife. Just in time to help the kids with some homework and put them to bed. After they went to bed my wife says "we need to talk". Im excited because she never wants to talk and I could care less if its good or bad, I just wanted to talk. Well it didn't end up being anything I have control over but it did open up the door for me to say a few things. Anyway, I was accused for talking to the wife of the OM throughout this week which is not true. I talked to her last weekend for the first and last time and my wife already knows about that convo. Apparently the wife of the OM is putting a lot of pressure on him about admitting to the affair and is telling him that I am calling her with all sorts of info. I let my wife read my phone conversation with this lady from last weekend and it is pretty clear that I wanted no further contact with her and I assured her that i havent. The strange part is here I am defending myself and I'm not the one having an affair lol anyway, I told her this was upsetting because I have been just focusing on myself and the kids and giving her all the space allowable while still living under the same roof! I dont pry into your business, I dont ask questions, I'm not upset if you come home late, nothing...just minding my own business and to have something like this come up just sets me back to square one. She told me that she could tell that i was giving her space and it was definitely noticeable. We talked for probably an hour. I assured her this morning that if anything comes up today or in the future about he said/she said stuff just know that none of it is coming from me. I'm done with her business and want nothing to do with any of those people and they know this. I probably should have not said anything this morning but sometimes I just cant help myself. My fear now is that she knows I am making a point of giving her space and that I am intentionally detaching. I'm thinking it just doesnt have the same impact now that she knows its a focus of mine and not something that is just happening naturally. We get to talking and I just say to much I'll keep plugging away with what Im doing, I just feel I may have damaged the process a bit.