My W mentioned in a text to her friend when the A A first started how great the sex was. But in the same sentenced mentiones mentiones how she held back from me in the bedroom for 17 years.
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Like it never occurred to my W that maybe things would have been better between us in the bedroom if she hadn't held back with me. And then told a stranger everything that she wanted.
You know this blows my effing mind. I have no indication that my W is in an A, but I fully expect this to happen if it gets there. For years, I had asked her what she wanted in the bedroom and nothing zip. And then suddenly she has new friends and she's talking about how they have threesome's and yada yada yada... I was like, WTF you talking about (in my head) - W would have the dimmest light in the room during sex and never went outside of a very conservative script of what to do in bed.
It's absolutely bananas. If only she had used the space we had together to explore and find out what she wanted or whatever, it could've led to such an improved sex life. Now they wanna go Girls Gone Wild - it's unreal.