Does Sandi statement mean I have to drop D papers? That's what drop her like a hot potato means to me.
Joe...has your W experienced any sort of loss since you discovered OM? What is she not getting from you that she was before? Most of what I have read tells me that the LBS has to take some sort of pro-active action to let the WW know they are not messing around.
For me my W has already moved out, for the most part is on her own financially, she is taking care of the kids by herself so the only pro-active action I could take at this point in time would be to file for D myself (outside of working on myself).
I have read where some WW have woke up when the husband exposed the affair, some woke up when he packed her bags and kicked her out, some woke up when the LBS served the papers etc. I don't know that I have read a sitch where the LBS just GAL'd, detached, etc. and the WW just chose to come back. I am sure the stories are out there but when OM is involved I don't think I have ran across 1.
The general thought though is that you file for D when you want it, do not use it as a method to get them back.
As far as the links go, right click on the posters name and sort by view posts and you can read through when they have written.
I only share to give you different perspectives on things, just know that some folks and their posts might be more controversial than others. I just share so you can be exposed to all the advice that has been giving on this site throughout the years.
