Thank you for that breakdown on the Nice Guy Syndrome. Needed that for myself as well. And Thank you for mentioningvhow our WW has literally given the playbook to OM. My W mentioned in a text to her friend when the A A first started how great the sex was. But in the same sentenced mentiones mentiones how she held back from me in the bedroom for 17 years. But upon first meeting OM got as wild as she wanted to get. Like it never occurred to my W that maybe things would have been better between us in the bedroom if she hadn't held back with me. And then told a stranger everything that she wanted.
OM just has to sit back and listen to W talk about her complaints about me. And simply validate over the phone and in text, while doing nothing. Coming off as Mr. So Amazing, yeah that is what she calls him. All this while having the convience of not losing his own family. But W continues to give him the information to her playbook, while admitting to not telling me things that were bothering her.
So I ask myself at times. Would someone who swore at one time they loved you. Honestly give more details to a stranger than their H? Especially one they know is no good, but choose to mess with anyways.
