Any Advice?

[joejoe1]

GW,

A temp test is when your WS, test you to see if you are still bought into staying in the marriage.

She might offer you sex, hug, kiss, to see if you except the bait. This does two things for them, it lets them know where are at and keeps you in limbo if you except. If you don't she will throw bread crumbs are move dither away and see what you do.

Your wife is not temp testing. She is avoiding. Temp testing happens when the WS senses a change and distance starting to form from the LBS.

"Turning the OM might wreck everything good", is what you said. What is good about your Sitch? I don't see any good.

Once you let good of the need to try and control this Sitch, you will turn him in. You are too worried about your wife feelings.

This process will take time and I mean a lot of time. If you look at any Sitch on this forum, people have been dealing with their Sitch for many months and years.

TXHubby dealt with his for 3 years before he got fed up.

The faster you turn him in the faster you can move on to the next phase, it's going to get harder before it gets easier. There are no easy answers here. Your strength, faith and patience are going to be tested.

Buckle up for a long painful ride. Be strong and stand firm.