How do I get things right?

[Lovelyp]

Thanks Sandi2, I read the post about Vanilla. Thanks for sending that. I think sometimes it is good to see things from afar because you get to understand objectively.
I think H s profile doesnt quite feel like an abuser. He is someone who doesnt drink, always home and so good with the kid. He is a hands on dad, takes care of all my financial needs and never complains. helps a lot with my work and even when he is busy he is always available to help and he believes in me and my potential as far as work is concerned. He is helpful around the house. He doesnt go out with friends and is a good finance manager and very geneorus to me and the kid. He is transparent about his finances. To everyone who knows him including my family he is a very nice person and well respected at work and among his friends. Now my problem is when it comes to relationship he seems clueless on how to handle that. He seems unable to understand where he goes wrong because he sees himself as a very nice person and doesnt understand why I am unhappy