I think you handled the birthday present well. But what do you think will happen after the D? I ask because I'm wondering myself. Where will the kids get money to buy presents for their mother? The good person in me says I would give them money, since this is their mother. But the fired husband says no way I'm going to give them money toward a present for my XW.
The house plan sounds great. A win for your son and a win for you. I hope it works.
About the other woman, that's awesome! You're getting your mojo back. Even though you got that ego boost, you still stuck true to your values and resisted the urge. I'd like to think I'd respond the same way. (Now if only I had the opportunity.)
Keep it up!
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
