This used to be easier - and a lot more fun, cont.

[DonH]

Good comments on the latest flake. With me, however, I am very, very leery and cynical of most in the first place - unless I really, really fall for them and then I can get sucked in. But in this ladies case there was never that huge of attraction - I was more giving her a chance as many here have suggested. I even remember saying she was last on a then current list of 3 or 4 - and getting yelled at by someone here for saying it that way - LOL. Anyhow, yes, it's rather clear. As I said, I don't try to fix people. I'm very huge on "people will show us who they are if we will only listen." That said, I do emphasize with her as it's what many of us here have gone through or are going through. She's divorced, no kids, away from family, not many local friends (from what I can tell), in a huge community for the military. OTOH, this is somewhat her choice and she doesn't seem to be wanting to do anything to change it - or perhaps like me, is not sure how to change it? But her only step in the right direction has been going from trying to tell everyone (and likely convince herself) she has a "great life" to admitting her life is not going that well.

The bigger take home for me, is the dating world seems to be filled with people like this - at least at my age. They are all over the place - all over. Yeah, I'm very picky and won't settle. I don't deny that. But still, it's so very hard to find someone who is "normal", meets what I'm looking for and I am attracted to. Then if even all those things are met, I have to check their boxes or we'll still not get anywhere.

Is it any wonder I've been D'd for 11 years next month and am still very much single. I think my revelation of two years ago holds true more than ever - I really do need to find a widow. Which, by the way, for those playing along and following me at home, my widow is moving from Arkansas to Florida in a few months! I just can't win - not that I've seen her in a long time anyhow.

Thanks for the comments everyone! I'm actually impressed people have taken the time to read it all!