You keep asking the same questions. You know what you need to do.
Don't try to figure out what she is thinjing and why she did it. She told you why the marriage is over work from that. I'm telling you from expierence that will drive you crazy.
Again, you and opportunity to take back some control. You have to be a man and dont worry about your wife feelings in this. Care for her, but don't get caught with she is going to hate you. If she dont have consquences to deal with, she is going to stay in her fog. Give her some reality to deal with. Thats what a husband and true friend does, be honest and give the people they love the reality of the situation. If you are thinking you are going to lose her. I would ask you this, is she yours now? If your answer is no, you have to honest with this answer. Then you know the next step.
You can shed light on this situation and do it oit of care for your M and W. Also, she will never respect you if you dont do nothing. A woman that don't respect will never be yours.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.