Any Advice?

[joejoe1]

IMO, you shouldn't take any advice from your wife on this. This is your decision and she knows it. Dont let her influence it. Show her she don't have power over you.

"He didnt do anything wrong". Other than sleep with a married woman and go against the oath he swore to. He's in the military.

Again she has no power over you. Show her she doesn't.

Listen to her logic, shes going to hate you, but she is the one who slept with OM while married. You should be the one dictating here not her. She decided to sleep with a man in the military now they both must pay the price.

If you are worried about getting her back, do you really think she's going to come back if you don't say nothing and let their affair continue?

You have to show her you are moving on (at least she must think that). And the best way IMO is to report this and detach hard as you can. Don't text her, call her, email her, or take any calls from her. Dont respond to her at all. If she tries to talk to you about you turning him in you turn and walk away. Stop giving her attention.

You know the right answer in this, but you dont want to upset your wife. It's time to take back some control. Doing the right thing is not always the easiest thing. It's going to hurt and be hard as he'll to deal with. Get prepared.