So Sandi2< Should i just start detachment and 180 her? What should i do with the OM? Ignore that he is even alive? Kinda at a loss for what steps to take to fix this mess. I know ive made it worse, she told me this morning that all the stuff ive done since we originally separated has taken us working it out off the table. Now the stuff with turning him in has caused an issue where she threatens to " Hate me forever " for ruining his life because she says hes done nothing wrong, shes the one who did the damage to our family. Yesterday she showed my son gifts she bought him and told him not to tell me. What do I do? Where do i begin? I have a general idea, buit thats it. Ive been reading your posts and think that 180, detachment, and GAL is the way to go , but your absolutley right, it feels like the wrong thing to sit back and let the affair go on unimpeded. It does truley feel counter intuitive as you said. Im just lost right now.i think i have it under control and i really dont.
He has done nothing wrong? He knew she was married, correct? Yet he still did it. not only that, but you mentioned he had done it before? Let him live with the consequences for his actions. I agree with Joe that you appear very weak. Indeed you knew she was going off for a week with him and you didn't take any action on that, correct?
Again, detach, GAL and live it. Spend as much time as you can with the kids and help them get through this as well because this can't be good for them. If she chooses to go down the path of leaving the M, then let her and DON'T support her in any way in that cause. again DETACH. Its hard as h$ll, but the only way you can turn this ship is if she thinks you've moved on.
Me 51, Wife 44; Married 4; Together 10; HSD20, XWSD13, XWSS14, XWSS17 Kids Together D4, D1.52 W Moves Out: 03/16/17 W Files : 03/17/17 D Final: 10/23/17
