I guess you need to read the thread about going dark. It will enlighten you on issues and learn from other people's experiences.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=50956#Post5095


M 11 Dated for 4 years before then
Me 35 H 39
D 10
BD Feb 2016
A 2015 Dec
I was never in a R with the OM. Had a one night stand & I stopped contact immediately
I confessed the A to H and we went for MC