Not really. In my case my husband was not doing anything. He was so passive and sort of detached from the marriage. He didn't do that. I saw him trying to connect and doing things to improve the marriage. It seems the things you wanted from your H after being separated are exactly the opposite from what this forum and the things I have learned from reading Michelle's books are.
I was questioning if by me going dark I was doing more harm. I have been the passive, doormat within our M for a while now. She has reached out a couple times with texts such as "My god. Can't you tell I'm like prying for attention and understanding of where you're at" and "I'm sorry I've been immature the last week or two; I'm just overwhelmed with emotions".
So I now be acting a bit more interested in her? Because is me going dark "more of the same"; because I was the passive one in our M. I know she is still speaking with OM; but do I need to feed her a bit of my new self? Or continue the darkness?
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
