A fresh start? (probably not!)

[Lovelyp]

I would encourage you to stop snooping on your wife s phone and I agree with ANotherstander that the basis of a MC is when she ends the affair with the OM. In the mean time you detaching and working on yourself may help her to decide. Detach, concentrate on yourself and your D and give her space and time and let her know that she has to decide what she wants but you hope that she can stop the affair and then you work on MC and deal with any issues. I hope for the best for you and your family