Joseph, I think the one main difference is that my W hasn't moved out...yet. If that were the case I'd be right where you are. May still be in for the long haul, I don't know.
Tonight, against my better judgment, I went on a mega-snooping binge.
She had been texting with her high school BF a couple of years ago, and MC a) told her to stop it, and b) for me to get an IC. We both followed through.
What I did not know until tonight was that she told xBF at the time that I have an intense jealousy problem, and it's making life hard for everyone. Like I have a sickness or something.
I do get jealous, but mostly I can't stand secrets, and W likes to keep some things private. I'm starting to consider tonight that maybe my behavior has been suffocating, and she's not cheating/hasn't cheated at all. Maybe I have been paranoid. Maybe I should focus on our friendship for now and just relax. I don't know why it is so important to her to maintain these guy friendships outside our marriage, but maybe it just is. I don't know.
Would be nice if we could get sex going on a regular basis, that would take the edge off for sure.
